Namrata

Namrata: Hi Sir,
I am employed into Service Industry recently and feel fine with it.I firmly believe that what we think is what we are.....means if we think positive we will surely come out with positive results and when we think negative we will receive negative. But the first problem I deal is that i am myself confused in the 1st stage of thinking i.e. i am confused at thinking stage (it always happen is this right or is this wrong).Second problem is I very fast loose interest in things which i do...I always need to do new new things.
Third problem i cant communicate my feelings properly to others.I feel i dont have good communication skill,due to which i face problem even with my collegues. and also level of confidence does not always stay same.

Could you please guide me??


Baladheepak AC :

Three problems..
First, you get confused,
Second, you lose interest in your activities,
Third, you have problems in communication.
Right?

If these three are right, that means I'm able to understand what you wish to convey. When you are able to clearly tell a stranger what your situation is, then you have to realise that you don't have problem in communication.
Do you still think that you have problem in communication?
Question three is answered? Communication

Ok, now to the next.

You tell me that you are confused. Let's look into this.

1. 80% of the people don't think
To get confused, you must, in the first place, think.
So, you are of the 20% of the privilaged in this world who are blessed with the ability to think. Right?

2. 60% of the people who think, have a problem of 'unilateral thinking'. Bicharre cant think more than one thing.
To get confused, you must have more than one idea and you are able to extend your imagination. Thats great. That means you are of the 40% of the 20% in the world population, which would count to 8% of the people who are able to think and think well. Okey..?

3. 3% of the people who think are able to think clearly because they are well aquainted with the subject. (Anyone who are well versed in any subject would be able to think clearly and come to a conclusive solution which would normally be demanded and these solutions are mostly right)
We all come in this 0.24% Namrata.
Don't worry.
All you have to do is be in a position to take up the challenge of deciding. Confusion

Third, you tell me that you lose interest in your activities.
What do you involve in normally?
Physical, skill oriented or time passing activities?
Let me know, I would be able to help you better.

You have a tender shoulder to lean on when you are disturbed. Lean on... Orkut

Baladheepak AC

A small collection for your training

Dear Friends,

Hope you all are fine.

Here is a bullet point which shall help your agents to realise confidence.

I shall send you more tips and bullet points which shall improve your business.

Let me know what you require.

 

 

  Ask yourself, "What's the worst that could happen?" Too often, we place excess importance on potential problems. We all have a certain amount of energy so let's apply it to creating extraordinary relationships, advancing our careers and meeting our goals INSTEAD of wasting that energy worrying.
  Take action on what you have control over and minimize risks for what you don't. Then invest your energy wisely. 
     

Love hurt

Sundar: Friends u all are great trainers. can u give suggestion to overcome my sadnes.. i loved agirl.. she also loved me. but after three months she told she got engagement with another guy and left me.. but recently i came to know that she is not engaged .. she is in orkut also.. ive asked why she told lie and left me.. but she is not even replying.. hey she ignored me.. why i dont know.. iam very stressed.. after she left and now also she is cursing me.. pls tel me the ways to forget her and come up in life..

 

 

@Sundar,

There is nothing more painful than to suffer indifference from the one we love.

Let us understand a few things,
First - if the person whom we love (or think that we love), is exhibiting indifference, then there should be some problem within us. (one must have great guts to accept this). So, to overcome that, communicate with the person in all humbleness and see how fast you can learn about the problem. Once you learn, then see if this problem of yours might extend beyond one person and affect other relationships too.

Action needed : Take a paper and write a letter or email, but write.

What is the second step? shall prescribe a few medicines, please mail me.

Baladheepak

A very powerful message

This is one of the best piece of messages what I have come across. Read this once you come here and am very sure, the more you read this and commit to your memory, your thinking, guts, attitude and life shall change to better. I would like to hear the changes you enjoy - Baladheepak

When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extrordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transands limitations. Your consciousness expands in every direction and you find yourself in a a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talants become alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person than you ever dreamed yourself to be.

UR BEST FRIEND: i read success quotes and become motivated.but the exitement remains for only 2-3 hrs.after that i am the same idiot(i forget my goals)i lose all that exitment.help me so that i remain exited till i reach my goals.

Baladheepak AC: @ Ur Best Friend

Hi,You know something, you are a brave person.
I don't know how you seem to others, but to yourself, you are quite bold.

First, you wish to improve yourself.
Second, you are aware of the hurdles, and
Third, you are ready to seek remedy for that.

You know what happens to people like you?
Success enhances you more readily than anybody else.

Well, well....Lets come to the point.
Why do you have the problem what you have mentioned?
Lets hear the experts

Even after a person has read so much, only the innate truth remains - Tirukkural

See, when you read a motivation quote or a inspiring ariticle, the HIGH ramains for a short time. Cos, it stays in BUDHDHI level, not absorbed in the MANAS.
If it stayes in the manas, then you wont forget it.

See what have I written in my previous post,
http://www.orkut.com/CommMsgs.aspx?cmm=36229&tid=2498957243670276605
I have mentioned read it again and again.

In my program 455 DAYS, we have made it a point that each and every point is absorbed and you become a part of the system, not the system becoming a part of you.

Okey, now coming to you,
First, decide in which direction you have to move ahead,
Second, attach reading only in that front

There is a great difference between the american systems and Indian systems.
In the Indian systems, there are no short cuts. There are only fullness.

It is a fully different subject, we shall talk about it later.

Sumedha: hello,sir many time i reach 2 a stage of indecision .m unable to take decisions. by dis it appears dat one lacks confidance but as far as i can analyze myself i do act very confidently in seminars , public speaking etc but when it comes to taking a decision no matter how small i often struck... can u plz help

Baladheepak AC: Decidability is a skill.
No doubt.
Lack of confidence is one leak what you have identified.

Along with, check how assertive you are.
You may ask your peers on your assertiveness level and am sure, they would be glad to help you out.

Okey,Now you know how assertive you are,Go through the question How daring am I?
Only if you are daring to do a thing, you would realise that taking a decision is like leaping from stone to stone amidst strong current Unless you dare to leave the stone on which you have a strong foot hold, you wont land the other step.

In short, thats what is known as risk ability

Summery,
Check your...
Assertiveness,
Courage and
Risk ability

Improve these and Decision making skills are on your way in your field of work

Venkatesh: AM unable to set a Goal in life!I am 27 and still am unclear as to what I want from Life.I have a good job, a good wife, nice parents and a bunch of good friends.....but there is a vaccuum inside which keeps reminding me tht I don't kno where I am heading....where I want to reach!What do U suggest I do?

Baladheepak AC: Congradulations Venkatesh,You have things what many already long to have in life.
Rather than searching for something out side, why not involve yourself better into those things around you,I think I can suggest a few things,

a) Good Wife : How much of quality time and love do you devote to her? Have you empowered her to lead your family and guide your child(?) in your absence? Are there chances provided to her to improve her skills? How proud is she feeling on her rank in your family?

b) Nice Parents : Are they really comfortable? Do they have any unfulfilled desires? Is their health in good condition?

c) Bunch of Good Friends : Is your time distributed to each and one of them? Are your friends confident about counting on you in trouble? Are the families of your friends' consider you as one among them?

d) Good Job : Are you aware of your relevance in the changing times? How confident are you about your level ahead of your peers? How fast and frequent are you in updating yourself with regard to your field of work? Is your earning satisfying the needs and wants of your family and others who might require your support?

I think, answering these questions and coming up with more through interospection shall fill the vaccuam inside you.
Your karma is most expected by this universe.
This fulfillment shall give you great peace.Do each and every thing with involvement. Have a smile always and see that your life shall treanscend more meaningful.

My prayers for your search to end - - within you. :)
Luv,
Baladheepak