Short tempered

Hi friend, I am short tempered person and became very angry with ignorable issue. What I have to do to get rid off from this bad habit
Baladheepak AC:
Pankaj,Though I saw your query three days ago, I needed time to contemplate before answering.
Two reasons:
First, we are tele-communicating. In person, things are different.
Second, there might be many others who might wish to know the solution provided for your question. The reply should be in that angle.
Fine,Lets' come back.
Pankaj,My observations has revealed three common charecteristics of people with short temper.

One, they are sensitive.
Two, they are intolerant to wrong.
Three, they wish to bring a positive change. (Here, the word positive might mean different things.)

Ok. Now that we understand you are sensitive, let us see a few things.
When you are angry, your thinking is out of control. At that time, we communicate with an unconscious intention to hurt others. The anger might cool down, but the scars caused by words might not heal - at all.

Realisation of the after-effects alone would be an antidote to anger. If you are immune to anger, then short temper would slowly find its path away from you.
My mom always tells a proverb - Anger is both the mother and father of all sins. (It might seem that these words are a bit exaggerated. No, having this in mind might actually bring about a great change in out attitude.
As mentioned earlier, realisation is the way.Pls have a copy of these lines with you, as the meaning sinks in, the maturity would bloom.

God,Grant me the serenity to accept,
The things I cannot change,
The courage to change things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Pankaj,
My little experience leads me to my bookshelves to dust away and re-view the scriptures. The more we are in lines with it, there would be no need for a thread like this.
If possible, read Saint Valmiki's Ramayana. The lessons found in it would be the best teacher for life.
May goodness dawn on you,
Baladheepak AC.

Sir im a final year chemistry student..recently i faired a bit poorly in my viva and i was sooo disappointed that i messed up with my practicals soon after that.the mistake was soooo silly to mention..it shows i was absent minded somewhere.why do i behave so?..and how should i get out of it?..pllss i need ur help..
Baladheepak
@ Anupa
Anupa, you are a final year chemistry student.
Can you help me with this problem?I
have an equation which people claim is correct. I have a few doubts coz the molecular strengths(! I hope the term is right)of the left hand side and right hand side are not equal. Can this equation be considered as right? We both know that it cannot be considered so.
What is the reason?
The stability is challenged - right?
If an equation is carefully noticed for its stability - we have to understand how important it is to see, notice and carefully watch the stability of humans.
This starts from the mind. If a small mistake of yours is going to be the focus, all the right things you do and the general agility of yours are out of focus.
So, keep yourself totally upon the situation (either it is a practical working, or theoratical problem..) and go according to the protocol.
If your professor has given a set of proceedures for you to go by, follow that without any intrusions in the mind.
As a guide, I remind you of the umpteen opportunities which are available in this world which you would be facing and taking up in the future. If you are not a clearhead, then, those opportunities might not be addressed successfully.
1.Learn from the problem.
2.Know why you went off balance.
3.Become more interested in the subject - even unconsciously you should do things right.

Ditched

Hi, can u give suggestion to overcome my sadnes.. i loved agirl.. she also loved me. but after three months she told she got engagement with another guy and left me.. but recently i came to know that she is not engaged .. she is in orkut also.. ive asked why she told lie and left me.. but she is not even replying.. hey she ignored me.. why i dont know.. iam very stressed.. after she left and now also she is cursing me.. pls tel me the ways to forget her and come up in life..

Baladheepak AC : There is nothing more painful than to suffer indifference from the one we love.
Let us understand a few things,
First - if the person whom we love (or think that we love), is exhibiting indifference, then there might be some problem with us. (one must have great guts to accept this). So, to overcome that, communicate with the person in all humbleness and see how soonyou can learn about the problem.
Once you learn, then see if this problem of yours might extend beyond one person and affect other relationships too.
Action needed : Take a paper and write a letter or email, but write.

Injustice - unable to tolerate

anupa
thank you sir..well i am unable to tolerate INJUSTICEpeople taking advantage of someone..telling a lie..such things really irritate me..

Baladheepak
@ Anupa
Anupa, you are a final year chemistry student.
Can you help me with this problem?
I have an equation which people claim is correct. I have a few doubts coz the molecular strengths(! I hope the term is right)of the left hand side and right hand side are not equalCan this equation be considered as right?

We both know that it cannot be considered so.
What is the reason?
The stability is challenged - right?

If an equation is carefully noticed for its stability - we have to understand how important it is to see, notice and carefully watch the stability of humans.

This starts from the mind.
If a small mistake of yours is going to be the focus, all the right things you do and the general agility of yours are out of focus.

So, keep yourself totally upon the situation (either it is a practical working, or theoratical problem..) and go according to the protocol.
If your professor has given a set of proceedures for you to go by, follow that without any intrusions in the mind.
As a guide, I remind you of the umpteen opportunities which are available in this world which you would be facing and taking up in the future.

If you are not a clearhead, then, those opportunities might not be addressed successfully.
1.Learn from the problem.
2.Know why you went off balance.
3.Become more interested in the subject - even unconsciously you should do things right.

Baladheepak AC

Sharpening our Axe

In this mail,
a) A case that might help you
b) Prayers for a few and
c) a quote which might inspire you


Friends,
Nice meeting you after a long time.

A few days ago, I received a phone call from a person who introduced himself as a student of mine and expressed wish to meet me for a help which he said he shall tell personally.
Over tea, he shared a few difficulties which showed that he needed fine tuning in some basic habits.
Seeing that he was the managing director of an important retail outlet in the town and being careful that the suggestions to be given to him should be effective and not very time consuming, I got the help from one of the most effective diplomats of the history and a person whose life history itself is a great inspiration to anyone who reads - Benjamin Franklin.

Of the so many things we learn from the great person, His way of imbibing values is the greatest - I feel.

He had conceived 13 virtues and also gave a simple definition which helped him as well as all those who wished to follow it by reading it regularly. I suggested 3 virtues from Benjamin Franklin's list and suggested to stick to them. This shall bring in steady and sure positive changes in life.

I'm sending this to you so that you might find an use of this in your life too.

2. "SILENCE. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation."

3. "ORDER. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time."

4. "RESOLUTION. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve."

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Saradha thiruvengadam, a seven months old baby is diagnosed with a tumour.
Seven months old, so tender, so lovable......
She is privileged to have parents who can afford a treatment for her and she is already admitted in a very good hospital.
But her parents are trying to gather one thing what the doctor had advised - - prayers. This mail too is in that attempt only. pls pray for the kid and her parents.

A good friend of mine, by some mistake in the past was blackmailed, humiliated, forced out of work and now in deep stress, out of work and directionless......
I refrain mentioning her name for reasons which you can understand.
Please pray for her, strength and courage to come over this difficult situation, stability for her tomorrow, and peace - which is most important for her.

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"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You're on your own, and you know what you know.
And you are the one who'll decide where you'll go."

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I shall keep in touch with you, as always.
And I know, your sms, mails and all forwarded messages - help keep spreading the message of friendship,
May God bless you and your dears,
Baladheepak AC

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A very powerful message

This is one of the best piece of messages what I have come across. Read this once you come here and am very sure, the more you read this and commit to your memory, your thinking, guts, attitude and life shall change to better. I would like to hear the changes you enjoy - Baladheepak

When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extrordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transands limitations. Your consciousness expands in every direction and you find yourself in a a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talants become alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person than you ever dreamed yourself to be.

UR BEST FRIEND: i read success quotes and become motivated.but the exitement remains for only 2-3 hrs.after that i am the same idiot(i forget my goals)i lose all that exitment.help me so that i remain exited till i reach my goals.

Baladheepak AC: @ Ur Best Friend

Hi,You know something, you are a brave person.
I don't know how you seem to others, but to yourself, you are quite bold.

First, you wish to improve yourself.
Second, you are aware of the hurdles, and
Third, you are ready to seek remedy for that.

You know what happens to people like you?
Success enhances you more readily than anybody else.

Well, well....Lets come to the point.
Why do you have the problem what you have mentioned?
Lets hear the experts

Even after a person has read so much, only the innate truth remains - Tirukkural

See, when you read a motivation quote or a inspiring ariticle, the HIGH ramains for a short time. Cos, it stays in BUDHDHI level, not absorbed in the MANAS.
If it stayes in the manas, then you wont forget it.

See what have I written in my previous post,
http://www.orkut.com/CommMsgs.aspx?cmm=36229&tid=2498957243670276605
I have mentioned read it again and again.

In my program 455 DAYS, we have made it a point that each and every point is absorbed and you become a part of the system, not the system becoming a part of you.

Okey, now coming to you,
First, decide in which direction you have to move ahead,
Second, attach reading only in that front

There is a great difference between the american systems and Indian systems.
In the Indian systems, there are no short cuts. There are only fullness.

It is a fully different subject, we shall talk about it later.

Venkatesh: AM unable to set a Goal in life!I am 27 and still am unclear as to what I want from Life.I have a good job, a good wife, nice parents and a bunch of good friends.....but there is a vaccuum inside which keeps reminding me tht I don't kno where I am heading....where I want to reach!What do U suggest I do?

Baladheepak AC: Congradulations Venkatesh,You have things what many already long to have in life.
Rather than searching for something out side, why not involve yourself better into those things around you,I think I can suggest a few things,

a) Good Wife : How much of quality time and love do you devote to her? Have you empowered her to lead your family and guide your child(?) in your absence? Are there chances provided to her to improve her skills? How proud is she feeling on her rank in your family?

b) Nice Parents : Are they really comfortable? Do they have any unfulfilled desires? Is their health in good condition?

c) Bunch of Good Friends : Is your time distributed to each and one of them? Are your friends confident about counting on you in trouble? Are the families of your friends' consider you as one among them?

d) Good Job : Are you aware of your relevance in the changing times? How confident are you about your level ahead of your peers? How fast and frequent are you in updating yourself with regard to your field of work? Is your earning satisfying the needs and wants of your family and others who might require your support?

I think, answering these questions and coming up with more through interospection shall fill the vaccuam inside you.
Your karma is most expected by this universe.
This fulfillment shall give you great peace.Do each and every thing with involvement. Have a smile always and see that your life shall treanscend more meaningful.

My prayers for your search to end - - within you. :)
Luv,
Baladheepak