Short tempered

Hi friend, I am short tempered person and became very angry with ignorable issue. What I have to do to get rid off from this bad habit
Baladheepak AC:
Pankaj,Though I saw your query three days ago, I needed time to contemplate before answering.
Two reasons:
First, we are tele-communicating. In person, things are different.
Second, there might be many others who might wish to know the solution provided for your question. The reply should be in that angle.
Fine,Lets' come back.
Pankaj,My observations has revealed three common charecteristics of people with short temper.

One, they are sensitive.
Two, they are intolerant to wrong.
Three, they wish to bring a positive change. (Here, the word positive might mean different things.)

Ok. Now that we understand you are sensitive, let us see a few things.
When you are angry, your thinking is out of control. At that time, we communicate with an unconscious intention to hurt others. The anger might cool down, but the scars caused by words might not heal - at all.

Realisation of the after-effects alone would be an antidote to anger. If you are immune to anger, then short temper would slowly find its path away from you.
My mom always tells a proverb - Anger is both the mother and father of all sins. (It might seem that these words are a bit exaggerated. No, having this in mind might actually bring about a great change in out attitude.
As mentioned earlier, realisation is the way.Pls have a copy of these lines with you, as the meaning sinks in, the maturity would bloom.

God,Grant me the serenity to accept,
The things I cannot change,
The courage to change things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.

Pankaj,
My little experience leads me to my bookshelves to dust away and re-view the scriptures. The more we are in lines with it, there would be no need for a thread like this.
If possible, read Saint Valmiki's Ramayana. The lessons found in it would be the best teacher for life.
May goodness dawn on you,
Baladheepak AC.

Injustice - unable to tolerate

anupa
thank you sir..well i am unable to tolerate INJUSTICEpeople taking advantage of someone..telling a lie..such things really irritate me..

Baladheepak
@ Anupa
Anupa, you are a final year chemistry student.
Can you help me with this problem?
I have an equation which people claim is correct. I have a few doubts coz the molecular strengths(! I hope the term is right)of the left hand side and right hand side are not equalCan this equation be considered as right?

We both know that it cannot be considered so.
What is the reason?
The stability is challenged - right?

If an equation is carefully noticed for its stability - we have to understand how important it is to see, notice and carefully watch the stability of humans.

This starts from the mind.
If a small mistake of yours is going to be the focus, all the right things you do and the general agility of yours are out of focus.

So, keep yourself totally upon the situation (either it is a practical working, or theoratical problem..) and go according to the protocol.
If your professor has given a set of proceedures for you to go by, follow that without any intrusions in the mind.
As a guide, I remind you of the umpteen opportunities which are available in this world which you would be facing and taking up in the future.

If you are not a clearhead, then, those opportunities might not be addressed successfully.
1.Learn from the problem.
2.Know why you went off balance.
3.Become more interested in the subject - even unconsciously you should do things right.

Baladheepak AC

Taken for granted

anupa
Sir i am very fond of helping others and so many of my friends take me for granted..i do know to say 'NO'.but my problem is i get carried away so much by their decisions that i never take my own decision.i know what is right and what is wrong but i feel they must be more right.ultimately i feel regretted for not taking my decision.i think im losing my self respect.plss help me sir.im in great distress

Baladheepak AC

Telling the truth, I too am changing from a position similar to yours.

I used to feel that whatever the other person's stand is, it would be better than mine or right - and mine is wrong.

The truth is I was right most of the times.

Being a human, I was wrong some times too.

How did I change?

I targeted small assignments and victories. These gave me a confidence that 'I too can be right'. These small acts brought better changes.

I stopped thinking that every situation is an opportunity.

I started spotting opportunities which shall bring me recognition - for a simple reason that my self-esteem should be repaired and should be high.

Later, I thought about those people who helped me have a good self image. I spent more time with them.

I lived a better life. I designed better days.

These are tips what I can give you.

See how you can design your days better.

Share with others; let's see how your days can be designed better.

After that, once you shed doubts on yourself, definitely, your self-confidence would stabilise. When your confidence is stabilised, then, when all the doubts on yourself would cease, then the decisions what you take would be right - rather, you would be able to take right decisions.

Helping others is not wrong. At the same time, we must know whom to help and when to. Definitly not to the extent of our being taken for granted.

All the best.