Ditched

Hi, can u give suggestion to overcome my sadnes.. i loved agirl.. she also loved me. but after three months she told she got engagement with another guy and left me.. but recently i came to know that she is not engaged .. she is in orkut also.. ive asked why she told lie and left me.. but she is not even replying.. hey she ignored me.. why i dont know.. iam very stressed.. after she left and now also she is cursing me.. pls tel me the ways to forget her and come up in life..

Baladheepak AC : There is nothing more painful than to suffer indifference from the one we love.
Let us understand a few things,
First - if the person whom we love (or think that we love), is exhibiting indifference, then there might be some problem with us. (one must have great guts to accept this). So, to overcome that, communicate with the person in all humbleness and see how soonyou can learn about the problem.
Once you learn, then see if this problem of yours might extend beyond one person and affect other relationships too.
Action needed : Take a paper and write a letter or email, but write.

Procrastination

NEHA
procastination
sir..please help me..i want to do well in my mba..know its importance..but i kp on postponing the hard work required for it..also when i sit to study..i have zero concentration..but i really want to get out of this condition..please help..

Neha,
Congratulations - for you wish to do well in your MBA.

You have mentioned that you know its importance. Good that you know its importance.

But, knowing is one part. How much of the importance have you felt?

Slightly unclear??

Wait,

You know what is the capital of Japan? And how important it is to the world?

Do you know how important is the functioning of the heart?

Good.. But have you ever seen a family in which one of the members has suffered a heart attack?

Yes? No?  - - -  no problem whatever is the answer.

But can you imagine what it would be like?

Can you write down what might be the grief and the situation in the family??

Pls write down. (It would take a minute. But pls do it. Take a pencil/pen and write down atleast five things about what would be the situation in that family.)

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Now,

You were telling about MBA. Can you imagine what would be your life without this degree.

How many gains can you mention???

 

 

 

Work on this.

Work to gain this. Don't worry about MBA. Think of all the benefits to gain later.

Procrastination will leave through the back door.

 

Injustice - unable to tolerate

anupa
thank you sir..well i am unable to tolerate INJUSTICEpeople taking advantage of someone..telling a lie..such things really irritate me..

Baladheepak
@ Anupa
Anupa, you are a final year chemistry student.
Can you help me with this problem?
I have an equation which people claim is correct. I have a few doubts coz the molecular strengths(! I hope the term is right)of the left hand side and right hand side are not equalCan this equation be considered as right?

We both know that it cannot be considered so.
What is the reason?
The stability is challenged - right?

If an equation is carefully noticed for its stability - we have to understand how important it is to see, notice and carefully watch the stability of humans.

This starts from the mind.
If a small mistake of yours is going to be the focus, all the right things you do and the general agility of yours are out of focus.

So, keep yourself totally upon the situation (either it is a practical working, or theoratical problem..) and go according to the protocol.
If your professor has given a set of proceedures for you to go by, follow that without any intrusions in the mind.
As a guide, I remind you of the umpteen opportunities which are available in this world which you would be facing and taking up in the future.

If you are not a clearhead, then, those opportunities might not be addressed successfully.
1.Learn from the problem.
2.Know why you went off balance.
3.Become more interested in the subject - even unconsciously you should do things right.

Baladheepak AC

Taken for granted

anupa
Sir i am very fond of helping others and so many of my friends take me for granted..i do know to say 'NO'.but my problem is i get carried away so much by their decisions that i never take my own decision.i know what is right and what is wrong but i feel they must be more right.ultimately i feel regretted for not taking my decision.i think im losing my self respect.plss help me sir.im in great distress

Baladheepak AC

Telling the truth, I too am changing from a position similar to yours.

I used to feel that whatever the other person's stand is, it would be better than mine or right - and mine is wrong.

The truth is I was right most of the times.

Being a human, I was wrong some times too.

How did I change?

I targeted small assignments and victories. These gave me a confidence that 'I too can be right'. These small acts brought better changes.

I stopped thinking that every situation is an opportunity.

I started spotting opportunities which shall bring me recognition - for a simple reason that my self-esteem should be repaired and should be high.

Later, I thought about those people who helped me have a good self image. I spent more time with them.

I lived a better life. I designed better days.

These are tips what I can give you.

See how you can design your days better.

Share with others; let's see how your days can be designed better.

After that, once you shed doubts on yourself, definitely, your self-confidence would stabilise. When your confidence is stabilised, then, when all the doubts on yourself would cease, then the decisions what you take would be right - rather, you would be able to take right decisions.

Helping others is not wrong. At the same time, we must know whom to help and when to. Definitly not to the extent of our being taken for granted.

All the best.

I'm a topper - that's the problem

FAIZA
Hello Baladheepak It’s a wonderful job that you are doing here! I have got a problem and I would like to know how you would have resolved it, had it been your problem!I actually don’t know if it is even a problem at all so let me first ask you if it’s a real problem that need to be resolved. Is it a bad thing that you are good in studies, have confident and are preferred by the teacher over the others?I know that for sure that I never pose or pretend to be, “miss know it all” but that’s exactly what I get to hear. Even my friends say this to me all the time that you are proud!!! This is posing quiet a problem for me; especially my male friends find it hard to tolerate my proud nature (this is what they say)

Baladheepak AC : This is a situation which would voice the top rank holders of 75% of the people in any educational instituation.
It is quite natural for the humans to compare.
By comparing, we normally lose equilibrium. When you study well and are praised for that, others start feeling an envy - cos, their immediate thought is that they are inferior to you.
Because of the reason that you made them feel this, you would be in the not-so-favourite list. Now, since you cannot be in the not-so-fav.. list of the teachers, your peers make a note to mark you in that list of theirs.
This is the answer to the first part of your question.
Baladheepak Ac

Trip to Scotland - 3THINGS TO REMEMBER

Mr.Ganesh,
Good to hear about your trip.
Unlike the normal "Wish you a happy journey" Mail, I wish to share a few things which would make your trip a successful one.

1. Remember your Roots - Most of the people who travel abroad, develop a fancy thinking that the other country's culture is great and that ours is not. This is hated by any person who knows about culture. Such exhibitionism isn't tolerated by decent people who have realised the value of tradition and ethics. Please stick to your culture and tradition and treat the people in the other country with the same courtesy as how you would like to treat your family.
2. Utilise your Privileges - The underprivileged compared to you can gain a lot from the experience and exposure of your foreign travels. I direct my friends to keep an open eye so that the umpteen number of opportunities from various sources can be introduced to people here. Those who are alert would definitely be ready to grab.
3. The Most Important Thing - is to remember that you are with your family and if your wife is home maker, she would expect you to return back in time. Spend quality time with your family.

Apart from this, I would tell you two things. Mails of quality shall be forwarded to you and My prayers for a safe and successful trip.

May God be with you,
Baladheepak AC

On 10/4/07, Ganesh Kumar. Sundar <Ganesh_Sundar@infosys.com> wrote:

Dear All,

It's a real surprise and also am really happy to say that i have got a Offer from my company - project Trip to Scotland .

I will be travelling to Scotland, Edinburgh for a Long Term Assignment for 1 year with my family .

As i am travelling on this Sunday, October 7th Early Morning 6.30, i want to inform all of you well in advance

Keep in touch and keep sending mails.

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Sharpening our Axe

In this mail,
a) A case that might help you
b) Prayers for a few and
c) a quote which might inspire you


Friends,
Nice meeting you after a long time.

A few days ago, I received a phone call from a person who introduced himself as a student of mine and expressed wish to meet me for a help which he said he shall tell personally.
Over tea, he shared a few difficulties which showed that he needed fine tuning in some basic habits.
Seeing that he was the managing director of an important retail outlet in the town and being careful that the suggestions to be given to him should be effective and not very time consuming, I got the help from one of the most effective diplomats of the history and a person whose life history itself is a great inspiration to anyone who reads - Benjamin Franklin.

Of the so many things we learn from the great person, His way of imbibing values is the greatest - I feel.

He had conceived 13 virtues and also gave a simple definition which helped him as well as all those who wished to follow it by reading it regularly. I suggested 3 virtues from Benjamin Franklin's list and suggested to stick to them. This shall bring in steady and sure positive changes in life.

I'm sending this to you so that you might find an use of this in your life too.

2. "SILENCE. Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself; avoid trifling conversation."

3. "ORDER. Let all your things have their places; let each part of your business have its time."

4. "RESOLUTION. Resolve to perform what you ought; perform without fail what you resolve."

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Saradha thiruvengadam, a seven months old baby is diagnosed with a tumour.
Seven months old, so tender, so lovable......
She is privileged to have parents who can afford a treatment for her and she is already admitted in a very good hospital.
But her parents are trying to gather one thing what the doctor had advised - - prayers. This mail too is in that attempt only. pls pray for the kid and her parents.

A good friend of mine, by some mistake in the past was blackmailed, humiliated, forced out of work and now in deep stress, out of work and directionless......
I refrain mentioning her name for reasons which you can understand.
Please pray for her, strength and courage to come over this difficult situation, stability for her tomorrow, and peace - which is most important for her.

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"You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You're on your own, and you know what you know.
And you are the one who'll decide where you'll go."

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I shall keep in touch with you, as always.
And I know, your sms, mails and all forwarded messages - help keep spreading the message of friendship,
May God bless you and your dears,
Baladheepak AC

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